If there is one skill that everyone would want to master. I guess it would be maintaining good relationships with the people around us.
Because most of the times when we find ourselves in a conflict with others, we simply use our favorite strategy, which is - blaming the other person.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t help at all and even makes the situation even worst!
But what if there is an alternative way to deal with this problem, what if you could simply avoid all of these conflicts in the first place.
And that’s exactly what you will learn in this article.
There are three ways that you are constantly using to destroy your relationships, all that you need to do is to stop using them.
It’s as easy as that, so let’s get started.
Firstly, you are criticizing when you should not
Usually, when we criticize, we don't realize how our criticism affects the other persons’ emotions, because, from our point of view, we are just trying to be honest. In fact, we think that we are actually helping them.
But the masalah is that they don't necessarily consider it like that.
If a friend of yours criticize the way you are dressed, you probably will defend yourself even if he might be right.
And that’s a nature of any human being.
When people criticize us, our ego forces us to believe that they are simply trying to show off, to look better than us or appear more knowledgeable.
Especially when it’s done in public since that drives negative attention to us, which is something nobody would want. It’s much better to keep your opinion to yourself.
You don't have to always express your opinion and say whatever comes into your mind.
Trust that will save you from a lot of arguments and you will maintain a better relationship with others.
I am not trying to say that you should never ever criticize anyone again, but rather learn first, how to do that properly, because most of the times, we usually do it in the wrong time and place.
Secondly, you are ignoring their emotions
When People run into problems, they start worrying and panicking.
From a side that looks pointless for you because you can clearly see the masalah and you can clearly see that worrying or panicking isn't going to help at all.
But the people who are in that situation don't view it in that way because their emotions are in charge and they are not thinking rationally at that moment, just remember the times when you were worried about something, I am sure that you found it really difficult to control your emotions at that time.
And the last thing you would want at that moment is someone telling - just stop worrying and calm down.
That never helps, that’s why, and you should not do it as well.
Your job is very simple in such situations, don't criticize, and don’t blame them for being stupid even if it was their fault.
Don't try to explain to them logically. You just have to provide them with the emotional support so that they calm down.
First if all, that’s the only thing that will help them at that moment and secondly, that will have a significant positive impact on your relationship.
Lastly, you aren’t taking them seriously
What we don't usually realize is that, what is important to others, might not necessarily be important to us, but that doesn’t mean we have to act like we don't care at all.
When someone is asking for your opinion, that means, they really care about what you think, they really value your advice, and it’s really important to take that seriously even if you are not interested at all in what they are saying.
It even might be something you don't understand at all.
Like, when you spouse asks whether to wear the blue or the red dress, to you, it doesn't matter at all, but to her, it’s an important decision.
So, instead of usually replying that you don't know and it doesn’t matter, take a moment and choose one, because that means a lot to her.
In short, try to criticize as less as possible and never ignore their emotions and make sure you always take them seriously with these 3 things in mind.
Your relationship with your family and friends will certainly get much better and now it’s your turn,
What do you think?
What would you add to this list?
Let me know in the comments below.
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